MILEY CYRUS, MIMI FAUST & OUR GIRLS: BEYOND TWERKING & CURTAIN RODS (REVISED POST)

By now, most of the world has seen  Miley Cyrus’ display at the MTV Music Awards where she chose to engage in sexually provocative behavior. At the time, many decried her performance and bemoaned the loss of the innocent Disney Channel star who was known more for her alter ego Hannah Montana than  for being Miley Cyrus. Being a psychologist who works with teens, I was saddened to find that I was not shocked by her “performance” or by the popularity Instead, I recognized the signs of what I am beginning to see more in my work with adolescent girls.

Since I wrote this about the Miley Cyrus incident, we have had another one in the form of Mimi from Love  & Hip Hop Atlanta and her infamous Shower Curtain Rod Tape. Although many have decried Mimi’s antics and the videotape, she has received more press, more google searches, and offers of money (even though it is from some less-than-desirable people).  In a world where our girls believe that any attention is good attention, where do Miley & Mimi leave us as we attempt to raise our girls?

The American Psychological Association has printed an excellent resource on the sexualization of our girls. In it, the APA discusses how television, social networking, and our music has influenced how tween and teen girls are beginning to perceive themselves. As our girls try to figure out what it means to be “girl” , “female”, or “woman”, they naturally look around for examples of what this entails. In doing so, they are bombarded with images in popular urban fiction books, music, and television of sexual innuendos, the need to begin dating relationships, and being provocative in dress as signs of true “femaleness”.

In addition, girls are known to be relational in nature. They often define themselves in part by the quantity versus the quality of their relationships. When we add in social media---from Facebook to Twitter to Instagram, it is clear that girls who make sexualized comments, expose the most “skin”, etc. receive the most “likes”, retweets, etc. Again, we send the message that sex not only sells, it gets attention.  Miley Cyrus, her tongue & the foam finger as well as Mimi  & her shower curtain rod being the topic of discussion on social media, in newspapers, and radio, bear this out.

Would Miley have received as much media exposure if she would have simply sang her song instead of using a foam finger and grinding on Robin Thicke? Would Mimi have been as noticed on Love & Hip Hop Atlanta and TMZ if not for the tape and exposing new uses for a shower curtain rod?  I seriously doubt it.

So, how do we combat such messages and raise our girls to be secure human beings in a society that sexualizes them at an early age?  Some suggestions:

1.       Acknowledge the media representation of our girls and discuss the images with them. Talk to them about what is inappropriate in what they hear in music lyrics, on television, etc.

2.       Increase the self-esteem of our girls by assisting them in recognizing their positive characteristics and cultivating them. If they are creative---encourage them to participate in the Arts. Athletic—involve them in sports

3.       Have age-appropriate conversations about sex and sexuality

4.       Help them begin to develop an understanding of what is acceptable in their own use of social media and in their dress---let them begin to make decisions in these areas and discuss the choices they make

5.       Recognize that they live in a world vastly different from your own. Technology is a part of their socialization and is in every aspect of their lives. Show them how to use it and monitor their use

Dr. Tyffani Monford Dent is a licensed psychologist/consultant/motivational speaker. She is also the author of Girls Got Issues: A Woman’s Guide to Self-discovery and Healing. Girls Got Issues is available on her website www.MonfordDentConsulting.com and www.amazon.com.  Her newest book geared towards teen girls is scheduled for release in Summer 2014. Follow Dr. Dent on twitter: drtyffanimdent. Dr. Dent is available to speak at women’s conferences/workshops

The Hymn of a Tiger-Mom, Mama Grizzly Feminist in a Battleground State

I am a Tiger-Mom, Mama Grizzly Feminist residing in the Battleground state of Ohio. I am the coveted “woman” vote that both President Obama and Governor Romney, along with the political pundits, say is the voting bloc that will determine this election. Yet, as both candidates work diligently to obtain my vote and those of other women like me, I believe the reason why we stump them is because we are so heterogeneous and many of us do not fit in to any neat package that can be addressed in a 60-second campaign ad.  For example, this is who I am:

1.       I am woman---and I believe that I am highly-qualified in my chosen profession and would likely have been one of the ones in Governor Romney’s now infamous binder (of resumes) if I happened to live in Massachusetts at that time.  Yet, my field is social services, and  I focus on under-served populations in the area of mental health. Although I believe faith-based communities do great work in helping the under-served, my experience has shown that the area of mental health is often one neglected by such a community---so I worry what would happen to my clients if their mental health services were not subsidized or even, depending upon the current governor of my state, was not valued and the push became faith-based provision of social services

2.       I am the sister of three Baptist Ministers, the daughter of a member of the Mothers’ Board, and the granddaughter of a deacon. However, I define myself as more spiritual. The political leanings of a politician do not matter to me as I do not expect his or her faith to determine public policy

3.       I am a Black American  woman, note that “Black” still shows up first for me. I am proud of my racial heritage and do believe that racism still exists. However, I do not believe that every problem within my community can be blamed on race and shudder when the “race card” is thrown around so freely as an explanation every situation

4.       I am educated.  I hold a doctorate degree in my profession and my husband is college-educated as well. Many would consider us elite and even if not, no one would consider us Blue Collar.

5.       Again, I am married and value my marriage, which is why I also support the rights of same-sex consenting adults to hold the privileges that my husband and I automatically received on the day we said “I do” (health coverage under my husband’s plan, survivor benefits, social security,  final say if anything happens, marriage tax rate, etc)

6.       I am a mother. In that, I want a world that will be there for my daughters that will not saddle them with the debt that they did not cause.  I want them to be able to afford college but also have jobs available to them when they finish. If they pay in to a retirement system, I want them to reap the benefits of doing so when they do retire.

7.       I chose to have two beautiful children with my loving husband. Yet, the key word is “chose”. I did not have an abortion, but do not think it is my decision to vote on whether or not other women should have that right. I do not plan to adopt or foster children----which means I am not “putting my neck out there” to take in the children that people argue are being aborted. My take on abortion has always been---if you do not believe in abortion, do not have one and if you do not plan to adopt any unwanted children that come from anti-abortion policies (and that includes minority babies), then be quiet

8.       I work hard---often 50-60 hours per week, and strongly believe that women deserve equal pay for the same work men do

9.       I own my own company---small as it is---with an employee of one----but I hope to grow and want to know that provisions will be made in my government to make that possible

10.   I enjoy being able to buy things. To do that, I need to know that my husband and I will continue to have opportunities within the United States. We need a strong economy and to make it not as profitable for our American companies to ship jobs overseas. At the same time, I do not believe in  “Top Down” economics. It worked in the Reagan era because the world was not competing with us with their own skilled workers.  I do not blame companies for wanting profits, that is what they are in business for----at the same time, our government must address taxation and other issues that make it “better” for companies to ship their jobs overseas

11.   Lastly, I vote. I vote in every election, not just presidential ones. I take my State-issued Drivers’ License and make a point to go to my polling station to vote for everything from school levies, trash collection amendments, judges,  governor, and yes, presidents. One thing I want candidates to know, is that I am also raising my two daughters to become Tiger-Moms, Mama Grizzlies  (if they choose to be mothers), Feminists in the state of Ohio. So, whatever you continue to promise and do not deliver, will resonant with and for them as well. See you all November 6^th.

Dr. Tyffani Monford Dent is a licensed psychologist/motivational speaker/author. She lectures and trains on issues of mental health disparity in minority communities, children’s and women’s issues, and sexual abuse intervention and prevention. Dr. Dent is also the Executive Director of Monford Dent Consulting & Psychological Services, LLC and the author of the book Girls Got Issues: A Woman’s Guide to Self-discovery and Healing available on Amazon.com and her website www.MonfordDentConsulting.com. Follow her on twitter: drtyffanimdent

Excerpt from: God, Where is My Piece (Peace)?

Everyone wants their own American Dream---their piece of the American pie. Yet, in pursuit of our “piece”, we will often make bad decisions or put our values/selves in second place.  In focusing on our “piece”, we will often overlook the fact that we deserve more than a “piece”---we owe ourselves to pursue the “whole”.  We also make what I like to call “Other Piece Mistakes”. We will-----

    1. Focusing on the quick piece-by this I mean, we look for short-term gratification instead of long-term satisfaction. How many of us have not pursued higher education because we wanted to make money now? How about starting an intimate relationship with Mr. Right Now because it appears as if Mr. Right is taking too long to meet your timetable? In focusing on the quick piece, we often lose out on the benefits of what could bring us the needed whole.

    2. Putting other’s piece before the quest for our own Peace-In talking with my sister-friends, it has often come up about the sacrifices they have made for their children, spouses, parents, friends, etc. It has not been uncommon to hear about giving up the desired promotion because it would not permit enough time at home with the children. How about the refusing or accepting a relocation that would provide the spouse with opportunities, but would leave her scrambling to find something? Even in putting lives on hold because their parents needed them? In doing so, we run the risk of being bitter, resentful, etc for the “piece” we gave up, thus negatively impacting our own peace of mind.

    3. Letting the pursuit of piece impact our peace-We must prioritize. In this situation, we maintain tunnel vision. Our piece of the American Dream becomes our obsession. Instead of attempting to balance our desire for work and family, we choose one and become very good at it. However, in doing so, we feel somewhat empty or lost because we are not fulfilling all aspects of ourselves. Most of us can name a friend who has the greatest career, but looks around and, to paraphrase a line in the movie Mahogany, “doesn’t have anyone to share it with”,  or sits at reunions of college classmates or former co-workers and wonders why she is no longer happy only talking about the great kids she is rearing…….

Excerpt from the Workshop by Dr. Tyffani M. Dent entitled “God, where is my piece (peace)?” 

Dr. Tyffani Monford Dent is a licensed psychologist/consultant/motivational speaker. She is also the author of Girls Got Issues: A Woman’s Guide to Self-discovery and Healing. Girls Got Issues is available on her website www.MonfordDentConsulting.com and www.amazon.com. Follow Dr. Dent on twitter: drtyffanimdent. Dr. Dent is available to speak at women’s conferences/workshops.

And he shall be made king?: Remembering the victims

Recently, I was forwarded a video of Bishop Eddie Long being crowned king by members of his congregation. For those who do not know, Bishop Long is a prominent Christian pastor who was accused of sexually abusing young men in his congregation. At the time of the allegations, Bishop Long blasted the media for supporting what he deemed false allegations. However, Bishop Long’s church and its insurance company later settled with the accusers for an undisclosed sum. One would believe that the luster of Bishop Long would have dissipated after such a scandal. Yet, instead he is being declared a king by members of his congregation. Since I am not a Biblical scholar, I will not attempt to address the issue of the Biblical soundness or heresy of declaring any minister a king. Being an advocate for sexual abuse survivors, the question I pose to members of his congregation and those within the entire community is: what about the victims?

Statistics suggest that 1 out of 6 males and at least 1 of every 4 females is sexually abused in their lifetime.  I wonder if the congregants who lifted Bishop Long on his throne consulted with his accusers and got their input on the “coronation”? Some may argue that “God forgives”, “no one can judge but God”, “we’ve all fallen short”, or “Bishop Long will have to address his behavior on Judgment Day.” Such statements serve only to keep sexual abuse hidden in our communities and to silence the voices of victims. Do I believe in forgiveness? Most definitely. In my work with families who have dealt with incest, I have seen forgiveness firsthand. Yet, we seem to be too quick to offer forgiveness. Forgiveness should be offered when someone is asking for forgiveness. By doing so, the person is admitting to making a mistake.  Instead, we skip over the prerequisites of Responsibility and Accountability. By responsibility, one must acknowledge their wrongdoing. This step announces to the world that what the victim has stated was true. Victims of abuse often fear coming forward because they might not be believed, especially when the abuser is someone prominent (e.g. ministers, teachers, coaches, etc.)  or deemed trustworthy (e.g. parents, uncles, siblings, etc.). To not give the victim the satisfaction of the truth being stated by their abuser is a travesty. Next, we must become accepting of consequences for actions. In offering up righteous forgiveness, we shy away from being okay with consequences still occurring. However, when one looks in the Bible, he will see that God even gave consequences to those whom He loved. After Moses’ behavior, he repented, but God informed him that he would still not be permitted to enter the Promised Land. When David had a soldier killed and impregnated the soldier’s wife (still unclear if that was a consensual relationship, but I digress), he ripped his clothes and begged God for forgiveness. God forgave him, but David still suffered the consequence of the baby born from that situation dying. This is not to say that consequences have to be as extreme as those mentioned above. Accountability must happen. It also serves a purpose for the victim. It lets it be known that the abuse inflicted upon him or her is severe and is not just being swept under the rug. When members of Bishop Long’s congregation chose to leave after the sexual abuse allegations (which they had every right to do), they were chastised for their decisions. Some argued that they were not demonstrating Christian forgiveness. My question would be, were they not simply holding Bishop Long accountable for his actions while at the same time making it clear to the victims that they did not condone the abuse? As a psychologist who has made it my mission to work with churches on developing effective responses to dealing with sexual abuse, I understand the importance of the Church in the lives of many. The church is often the first place that we go to seek solace from experiences including sexual abuse. In this, our community (and especially the faith community)  we must begin to practice ALL of the principles of forgiveness including Responsibility & Accountability if we want to ever play a significant role in ending sexual abuse.

As for Bishop Long and his coronation? It does ring of royalty. It is truly a royal mess.

Dr. Tyffani Monford Dent is a licensed psychologist/consultant/motivational speaker. She is also the author of Girls Got Issues: A Woman’s Guide to Self-discovery and Healing. Girls Got Issues is available on her website www.MonfordDentConsulting.com and www.amazon.com. Follow Dr. Dent on twitter: drtyffanimdent

I Hope She Cheats on You: Moving Beyond the Bitterness

While making one of my many out-of-town trips, I found myself listening to the new CD by Marsha Ambrosius. Due to the amount of time in the car and my failure to bring along any other CDs for the trip through the backwoods where there are no radio signals, I ended up listening more intently to the lyrics than I would usually. In listening to the song “I hope she cheats on you with a basketball player”, I noticed a theme that I have seen in my sister-friends (and admittedly, in the past, myself). It was the tendency to not be able to move beyond a broken relationship. Instead, we choose to wallow in the misery and  pray that he is feeling the same sadness. During this “I hope she cheats on you” phase, we focus on the great times and push away the memories that likely caused the relationship to implode. At these times, we curse his name and blame other women, his friends, etc. for the break-up. We also hope that he never finds happiness because we want to remain the best thing that ever happened to him. Yet, by staying In the Moment, we do ourselves a disservice. We cling to a relationship that no longer exists (if it did in the first place). Instead of looking at the relationship as a Life Lesson that can bring us one step closer to being prepared for our true Soulmate, we beat him and ourselves up with what went wrong and how we can get the relationship back.

As we all know, karma can be a….you fill in the blanks. So, by spending our time keeping track of him and rejoicing at any of his failures, we take energy away from making our own successes. The next time a break-up happens, instead of hoping his next girl cheats on him with a basketball player, we must realize that focusing on wanting bad for him is actually cheating ourselves.

Steps to Moving Beyond the Bitterness

1.       Find something else to do-Note I said “something---not someone”. Jumping from one relationship to the next does not help anyone. When doing so, you are setting yourself up for another failed relationship. Instead of sitting around wondering what he is doing, make plans for yourself. The best way begin to move on is to actually do it.

2.       Learn from the Experience-every relationship/encounter can teach us a lesson. However, he will not be following you in to your next relationship, so it is a waste of time to focus on his shortcomings. Instead, take an honest assessment of you. If you could go back (and you are not), what would you do differently? By honestly looking at yourself, you can bring the “gift” of the Improved You in to your next relationship instead of “baggage”

3.       Don’t be a Cyberstalker-De-friend him on Facebook. Stop following him on Twitter. No one says that either of these has to be forever. Sometimes, one can grow and become friends with an Ex, but when the “ex” is still fresh and you are thinking about cursing him out, slashing his tires, or wanting desperately for him to take you back----you cannot honestly say you are ready for the Friend Zone.  When we leave a job, we do not constantly go back to our former place of employment for lunch or to sit at our old desk. We must move on. By constantly updating yourself on his life, you are trying to be  a part of it.

4.       Find Supports-This is a hard one. Every friend cannot be a good friend in this situation. If your girl is one who encourages you to leave mean messages on his telephone, beat up the new female, or otherwise engage in behavior that makes you look crazy, she might not be the one to assist in this situation. Instead, lean on that friend who will let you vent and cry about the relationship, but will also encourage you to look towards the future

5.       Remain Open to the Possibility-After a difficult break-up, it is easy to close ourselves off and be resistant to a new relationship. True, one should take time to heal from the previous injury before exposing herself to something new. However, most of us are not still with our high school sweetheart, First Love, etc.---which means that we understand that some relationships are only a preview of the Main Attraction. Even if you believed that he was “it”, he might be “it” for someone else, but he was not your End-All-Be-All. Again, learn from the experience, remember the good times in the relationship, while being ready (and smart) about the next one.

Dr. Tyffani Monford Dent is a licensed psychologist/consultant/motivational speaker. She is also the author of Girls Got Issues: A Woman’s Guide to Self-discovery and Healing. Girls Got Issues is available on her website www.MonfordDentConsulting.com and www.amazon.com. Follow Dr. Dent on twitter: drtyffanimdent

Mothers: Surprise, you are NOT the father

The Maury Povich Show was my guilty pleasure. In the past, I would have never admitted to anyone that I would scroll through the on-line TV guide to determine when the next “Is he the father?” episode would come on. Watching as some of the women would insist that  a man was the father, or as fathers insisted they could not be because “she was sleeping with everyone” would make me cringe, but also lean in closer when Maury ripped open the envelop.  Today, I am going to take on the Maury Povich role and declare to all of the women out there: You are not the father.

At this time in society when more of our children are being reared in single-parent homes for a variety of reasons, it is disheartening to see women declaring on Fathers’ Day “to all the single moms who are both mothers and fathers to their children.” True, single mothers carry an extra heavy burden that I do not envy. They are often the sole emotional and financial providers for their children. To this I say, you are being exceptional mothers; yet, you cannot be a father. The role of a father or father-figure is to provide an example of what true manhood should be.  It is to permit young girls to see how men are supposed to treat women and what real men do. For young boys, it is, as Jill Scot says “to teach him how to be a man.” Women, no matter how much we try or how great we may be, we cannot take the place of a male figure in the lives of our children. We go around and state “I don’t need a man”, and maybe we do not, but children do. If you are not willing to provide him or her one, they will go out searching, and the outcome is not likely to be a positive one. For our young girls, they will often seek male figures who pay them any attention, and because they do not have a good frame-of-reference for how men treat women, they are likely to accept whatever comes our way. For our young boys, if we do not hand them a male to emulate, they will search one out, often finding them in gang associations or grasping on to glorified images of machismo that are unrealistic and unhealthy.

This article is not to argue about single parenthood, same-sex relationships, etc., but instead to assert the importance of any parent insuring that their child has consistent access to role models of both sexes. It is ironic that, men who are in the position of primary parent will quickly seek out their sisters, mothers, aunts, grandmothers, or girlfriends to assist them in parenting duties. Is it our quest to be “Superwoman” , the multiple generations of single women whispering in our ear that we can do it alone, the “good man shortage”, or some other reason that has us declaring that male figures in our children’s lives are not needed? It might be some other reason not even named. Regardless, we must move beyond this and face the reality of the situation: Children need male and female adults to model appropriate behavior. If the child’s biological father does not want to be or cannot be involved, seek out that brother, father, male cousin, etc of yours who can be there for them. There are also structured organizations such as Big Brothers/Big Sisters who are geared towards providing this positive frame-of-reference. Involve your child in organized activities at your Place of Worship, their school, or in the community where they have ongoing access to positive male figures.  Just as we often get creative to make sure our children’s other needs are met, we must recognize that a male figure is also a need and demonstrate creativity in finding him as well.

That being said when your true day comes, this will be the message from me:

“To all the single mothers out there who are going that extra mile to parent alone, I say, Happy Mothers’ Day”.

Dr. Tyffani Monford Dent is a licensed psychologist/motivational speaker/author. She lectures and trains on issues of mental health disparity in minority communities, children’s and women’s issues, and sexual abuse intervention and prevention. Dr. Dent is also the President of Monford Dent Consulting & Psychological Services, LLC and the author of the book Girls Got Issues: A Woman’s Guide to Self-discovery and Healing available on Amazon.com and her website www.MonfordDentConsulting.com. Follow her on twitter: drtyffanimdent

Moving Beyond The “Sperm Donor” Mentality

In a MSNBC news story, it was reported that approximately 40% of all births in the United States in 2007 were to unwed mothers (http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29754561/ns/health-womens_health/). Thinking beyond the reasons for choosing to have children out of wedlock, I instead decided to address the issue of how such a choice needs to move beyond the “Sperm Donor” mentality. By this, I am referring to many arguments/discussions I have had with other women about the men who have fathered their children. In these discussions, I have often heard the men referred to as “the Sperm Donor” ----said with a mixture of disgust and bitterness. Why one chooses to engage in sexual contact with a man who would deserve such a title is beyond me, especially if he has a pattern of being a “sperm donor” to other women. I firmly believe in learning from the mistakes of others vs. making my own. Yet, I digress. The decision to have a child within or outside of wedlock is a deeply personal one that I leave up to the adults making that choice. However, when it comes to endorsing the Sperm Donor Mentality, I must stand up and argue for the children who suffer because of it.  True, we cannot force anyone to be a good parent. However, we must also ensure that we are not doing anything to preclude them the opportunity to make the attempt. So, in attempting to move beyond Sperm Donor, I offer suggestions (post-birth) to my sisters.

1.     Your child is not a bargaining chip-Your child should not be an instrument used to try and “keep” the man or force him to not move on to a healthy dating relationship with someone else. Refusing to let him spend time with his child because you don’t like “that woman” solely because she is with him instead of you, is unacceptable. Insisting that, in order for him to be with his child you must all be a family (READ: The child and I are a package deal), robs the child of having part if his family.

2.     Money isn’t everything-Yes, I firmly believe in child support. As we all know, children cost a lot of money. Yet, if he states he does not have it, keeping your child from an emotional relationship with him does not help anyone. For those who have grown up without a lot of money, they will often refer to the love within the family as being something that sustains them. Let your child have access to the emotional if not financial support. You might also make unofficial arrangements including the father being responsible for all of the child’s needs when they are together (e,.g. food, his clothing, activities, etc.) Sometimes, we do not realize how much a child costs until we have to pay it.

3.     Adult business should remain such---Growing up, I was told that “kids did not need to be in grown folks’ business”. Somewhere along the lines, we have forgotten that and made our children aware of our “business”. How many of you have informed your children that they could not get something because their dad did not send the check? How many of you have referred to your child’s father as “deadbeat”?  Remember, half of your child’s DNA comes from the man that you are denigrating, which poses the question in a child’s mind of “what does Mom think about me?”

Now, for men who are, for whatever reason, choosing not to be with the mother of their child(ren), some rules for you to keep from falling in to the Sperm Donor role.

1.     Love does cost a thing-Your child needs your financial support. Yes, you might think that “she isn’t spending the money on my kid anyway, so why bother?” If that is the case, instead of handing over cash, make arrangements to  be responsible for certain financial obligations. For example, offer (to the mother or in court) to pay for daycare, school uniforms, school lunches, etc so that you know your money is taking care of your child. Sometimes, the excuse is valid; at other times, it appears to be used as a way to get out of meeting a financial obligation

2.     Only one relationship has ended-Regardless of whether the pregnancy was planned or unplanned, the child is here. Ending the relationship with his mother does not make your fatherhood role null and void.

3. Don’t play the Blame Game-No one wants to hear how you were trapped. There is only one surefire way to keep from having a child with someone, and that is to not have sex with them. Second runner-up is you making the decision to use a condom. If you are putting birth control solely in the hands of your partner, you are demonstrating a level of trust and I would hope, commitment due to exposure to more than just pregnancy. So, instead of trying to justify your lack of involvement by whining about being “set up”, actually begin to take control of the situation by actively parenting your child.

If parenting were left to only those who are mature adults, there would likely be less children in this world. However, starting out with a lack of emotional maturity does not mean it needs to stay that way. Let’s move beyond “baby’s mamas”, “baby daddies” and “the sperm donor” to becoming mothers and fathers to our children. Remember, they did not ask to be here. Yet, our goal should be to make their lives as stable and nurturing as possible. The first step is to get rid of the “Sperm Donor” mentality and move towards co-parenting.

Dr. Tyffani Monford Dent is a licensed psychologist/motivational speaker/author. She lectures and trains on issues of mental health disparity in minority communities, children’s and women’s issues, and sexual abuse intervention and prevention. Dr. Dent is also the President of Monford Dent Consulting & Psychological Services, LLC and the author of the book Girls Got Issues: A Woman’s Guide to Self-discovery and Healing available on Amazon.com, at local book retailers,  and her website www.MonfordDentConsulting.com. Follow her on twitter: drtyffanimdent